Good Afternoon friends! Just getting my workout in for the day! There's someone here that does drag?
Last Spring, Duke announced that incoming first-year students, aside from those in varsity sports, would no longer have the option to choose a roommate. By dissolving the roommate selection option, administrators hoped that students from different backgrounds could be forced to live in the same square foot room for an entire year and thus learn from each other. This decision was controversial, as some agreed with the housing decision and others said it placed a burden of education on students with marginalized identities.
It's also particularly challenging for members of the LGBTQ community, who've traditionally only had access to hetero-based sites and apps. When I was on the apps in the late aughts, queer women could barely be found. I met so many cis straight men who checked the "women seeking women" box so they could match with queer women who, they fantasized, would magically change their sexual orientation just for them.
To be completely honest, I always struggled to make friends in the gay community. Many gay men prefer to congregate at night clubs to drink, dance and flirt. When I've gone to clubs, I felt invisible in a sea of attractive men who looked and appeared so confident. When I moved to a new city after college, I started to grow into my identity as a gay man.
This is particularly relevant to students, as college is a place of self-discovery, and somewhere many LGBTQ people choose to come out or experiment with their identity. College can be expensive, so any financial help is usually welcome. What you might not know is that there are scholarships available specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students.
Ah, college. Four transformational years of binge drinking, bad sex, broken hearts and self discovery. For example:.
Are you gay and out in high school or college? Or are you planning on coming out at school? College is much less insular than high school campuses can be, but both can be great times to express yourself and explore your interests.
It literally is scientifically driven due to the fact that we have testosterone pumping through our bodies. Add to the fact that our culture is obsessed with imagery and sex, and it becomes almost impossible to escape thoughts of sex. As gay men the testosterone levels are doubled in the dating world, and we are constantly playing with fire as we try to think with our brains and not our dicks. Going one step deeper into the conversation about gay men and sex, we have to acknowledge how easy it is to find sex.
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